When you hear these words, you get encouraged, thinking, "Wow, if that person was able to do it, then certainly I could do it, too!"
But you know, I sometimes question how sound these words are. Really, if I was able to accomplish a goal, is it reasonable to believe that anybody else could accomplish the same thing?
Well, theoretically, anybody could do what I've done. In reality, no, not everybody could do what I could do.
Let's take this example. I could squat a significant amount of weight because I don't have any knee problems. Could someone with bad arthritis do the same? No, they can't.
Let's take this other example. Someone with great credit and a good paying job was approved a nice loan to open a business. This person opened a business and within a few weeks started making a profit. Could somebody with bad credit and no job get a loan to open a business, and much less make a profit from a business? No.
So not everybody could do what you could do. Not everybody is in the same position to accomplish what you can accomplish. However, everybody is in a position to accomplish something. Instead of trying to copy someone else's success, how about we focus on accomplishing our own successes?
See, everybody is in a different place in life. Everybody has different abilities. Everybody is presented with different opportunities. Some could get success in a place where you cannot get it in. But you might be in a place to get success in a place with those other folks cannot get it in.
Take someone who is genetically considered an "ectomorph." This person's fat metabolism is naturally higher, so getting fat would be hard for this person. This is the kind of person who could eat a lot and gain little to no weight. Now, should this person gain a significant amount of weight, he or she could lose it quickly if he or she started on an exercise and diet plan.
Now, take someone who is genetically considered an "endomorph." This person's fat metabolism is considerably slow, and it would be easy for this person to gain weight. If this person gains a significant amount of weight, he or she would see slow weight-loss results. If the ectomorph gained 100 lbs and the endomorph gained 100 lbs, the ectomorph could lose that weight in less than a year. The endomorph may lose that weight in two years!
Should the ectomorph say to the endomorph, "If I can do it, you can do it, too!" Of course not! The ectomorph had a genetic advantage over the endomorph.
I have an advantage over you. You have an advantage over me. All of us were put in situations where we would have more of a "leg-up" than another person.
I read of a story of a professor who had all of the students in his class throw paper balls into a trash can. The students who sat up at the front were able to get the balls into the trash can, or at least scored higher than the students in the back. The further back the students were, the less their chances of getting the balls into the trash can. The students in the back, of course, couldn't get any balls in the trash can.
The professor then told the students that success is offered to everybody, but that some people have more of an advantage for that success than others.
But let's see the other side of this example. What if the exit to the class was in the back of the room and there was a fire in the front of the room? Who is likely to get out first? The students in the back certainly couldn't make those paper ball shots, but they could certainly get out the classroom with their lives quicker than the students in the front!
In life, everybody is offered the same thing. Everybody could lose weight, everybody could get muscular, everybody could get rich, everybody could travel the world, everybody could get a car, everybody could have children. The question is not, however, what is offered to everybody. The question is what is offered to YOU.
The students in the front were offered the trash can to be close enough for them to throw their paper balls in. The students in the back were offered a quick escape from the class. Both students were offered the same thing, but each of the students had more of an advantage of getting one thing than the other.
What is your advantage in life? Yes, you do have an advantage to get something that other people don't -- and THAT, my friend, is what you ought to focus on. Don't focus on my success, your friend's success, or the success of those on television. Focus on the success that is offered to you!
I'm a part of several network marketing companies. I'm not doing business in any of them, but when I would attend their meetings and see the success of those so-called "ordinary people," I would be encouraged by thinking that the same thing could happen for me. Maybe I could make $10,000 a month like Mr. Blow Joe did!
But then I started thinking, "Mr. Blow Joe had no wife and kids to think of, he lived with his parents, and had lots of time to devote to this business." I didn't have any of that! Is it any wonder that Mr. Blow Joe was able to be so successful so quickly in his business while I'm nowhere near his success?
Yet, Mr. Blow Joe would say, "If I can do it, so can you!"
Well, maybe it's not for me to copy Mr. Blow Joe. Maybe I could also make $10,000 a month...but not by doing the business that he is doing. Maybe it could be by writing a book, something Mr. Blow Joe is weak in. Maybe it could be in a different network marketing company where I could use strengths that Mr. Blow Joe doesn't have.
But it's not a competition between me and him. It's about his having an advantage in one area of his life and my having an advantage in another area of my life. He is successful in what was offered to him. I would be success in what is offered to me.
Again, I ask, what is offered to you? What advantages do you have and how could you use that advantage for your good?
In my barbel class at the gym, I have quite a few skinny gals who probably never gained a pound in their lives. I have one girl in mind who is "straight up and down," having a flat chest, flat butt, no hips, narrow shoulders, you name it. She is all ectomorph! But her weights are also pretty light.
Then I have a "big girl" in my class who seem to have trouble losing all of her excess weight. However, she is strong like a bear! Her weights are usually quite impressive! The skinny gal is successful in having no fat to worry about, but she might not be very strong. The big girl is successful in being strong, but still struggles with her weight. Both gals have an advantage at something and a disadvantage in something.
In the same way, you have an advantage and a disadvantage. Focus on your advantage! Don't try to copy someone else's success. This is not to say to not go for the same thing that the other person is going for, but remember that the other person may be able to get it much quicker than you could. Don't get discouraged by it. Put your attention on something you can get quickly because of the advantage that you have been given.