Yet, despite this job being so hard, it's also the most rewarding job that you could ever do. If you could master the job of self-improvement, your life would be much easier and much more enjoyable than it is now.
Some time ago, my wife met with a man and his mother at a nutrition club. The son was over 400 lbs! After meeting with those two, she mentioned these people to a regular client of this nutrition club. This client told her, "He needs a psychiatrist!" How in the world could you determine that a weight-loss client needed a psychiatrist if you didn't even the know the client?
Simple: the client was over 400 pounds.
When I thought about it, it made sense that someone that obese would need to see some professional help, because you just don't get that big because you like food. Heck, there are plenty of people who love food, but you won't see them that big.
His weight was more personal than his desires to eat.
My wife told me that she did notice how the mother talked to her son...almost as a child. He was a grown man! I guess his mother played a part in his obesity.
When people get so big, no, it's not because they love food. It's not because they're irresponsible with their health. They have a self-development issue that they need to work on. They need to work on making themselves better, not on making their weight go away.
You see, there is a reason why I send these e-mails out every week. While it has almost NOTHING to do with fitness, it DOES have lots to do with self-improvement. If you don't work on improving YOU, then you won't work on improving your health.
If you're overweight or downright obese and you look at the mirror, know that it's not a food problem. It's a YOU problem -- if I may be so blunt.
When you decide to lose weight, why do you do it? If you simply try to lose weight because you just want to get skinny, I bet you have failed at weight-loss MANY times. But if you try to lose weight because you believe you could be a BETTER PERSON, then I bet you have made some significant weight-loss accomplishments!
I'm big into supplements, but I have wrongfully try to sell them to people whose issues weren't simply obesity. I had clients on weight-loss supplements who looked like the perfect candidates for these supplements. Why did my clients still fail? Why did they lose SOME weight and then drop off the face of the earth?
It's because their problem wasn't weight. They had other issues, and those issues affected their weight. What I did was address their WEIGHT instead of addressing their PERSONAL DEVELOPEMT.
Or in other words, I addressed the PROBLEM, not the INDIVIDUAL.
When you work on YOURSELF, other challenges in life would either not exist or would not be so bad. When you neglect yourself, be prepared for a HARD life.
Let's think about some things that could make life rough for you....
- Struggling with a bad habit
- Having a very negative attitude
- Always worrying
- Chronic procrastination
- Spending too much time on the internet
- Spending too much time watching T.V.
- Always blowing your money
All of these are self-improvement issues -- they are PERSONAL. They aren't the problem: they are ingredients for a problem.
If you're always late, then...
- You're always stressed out, because you're trying to get things done at the last minute.
- You are always paying late fees on your bills, because you could never pay them on time.
- You have a low grade in class, because you didn't turn in assignments on time -- or at all!
- You get a speeding ticket, because you're late for (fill in the blank).
- Your car is having issues, because you kept putting off that Check Engine Light -- and that light was on maybe because you just needed a new, $2 spark plug put in.
Procrastination could be very costly, right?
So, if you're always having money trouble and I don't address your chronic procrastination tendencies, then no amount of help that I could provide would help you save money.
- I can't fix your lungs if you love smoking.
- I can't fix your marriage problems if you think you're not part of the problem.
- I can't fix your children if you think you have nothing to do with their problems.
- I can't help you lose weight if you think that your weight is the only problem you have.
- I can't help your bad attitude if you don't think you have one -- when you CLEARLY do.
When someone comes to me and they have every problem in the world, I can't help but to think that HE or SHE is the real problem. When you have a new problem every week (or everyday!), I'm sorry to be blunt about this, but this indicates that YOU are inviting those problems into your life.
Think about yourself as a magnet. You are always attracting something to you. What you attract depends on what you are.
- If you are rotten meat, you'd attract flies.
- If you are a thug, you'd attract cops.
- If you like putting people down, you attract animosity.
So that you won't attract the wrong things in life, you need to change WHAT you are so you could attract more of the good stuff to you. In order to change what you are, you need to work on yourself.
We spend too much time working on problems than we spend working on ourselves. If we would just admit that all of life's problems are drawn to us because of who we are, then we would be more serious in changing who we are so we could avoid many of those problems.
Let's go back to the weight-loss issue again. You have someone who is 400 lbs. He could do everything he would think of to lose that weight, but unless he works on HIM, then that weight ain't going nowhere.
He needs to, instead, work on the following:
- Having a better attitude.
- Being more excited to do new things.
- Getting rid of negative influences in his life.
- Avoiding things that suck up time (T.V., Facebook, etc.).
- Having personal goals to obtain.
- Wanting to set an example for others.
- Wanting to better nourish his body.
When he works on these things, then the weight-loss would be a natural result, because he would see himself as too valuable to hold onto all that weight and all the problems that weight would give him.
See how that works?
We used to have a neighbor who, despite my protest, had gastric by-pass surgery. And she wasn't too obese! She got the serious surgery where the docs chop up and re-arrange your guts and reduce your stomach organ to the size of a thumb! You can't reverse that kind of surgery.
Well, she did lose weight -- and then gained it back again. She still had medical issues, and the ambulance was frequently at her house.
Guess what? She dealt with the problem, which was her weight -- but she herself was a mess. As long as she is a mess, then that weight of hers won't go anywhere.
Whatever problems you have, stop focusing on those problems. Focus on what kind of person you are, and if you could fix who you are, then you could almost automatically fix your other problems.
- If my house is always dirty, I need to work on my laziness and organization skills.
- If my kids are always disrespecting me, I need to work on respecting other people.
- If co-workers are always mad at me, I need to work on being kind to them.
- If my bank is always dried of money, I need to work on my spending habits.
- If life is always giving me problems, then I need to put up the "WE'RE CLOSED" sign up on the door!
Of all the things to spend time on, spend MOST of that time working on YOU. Don't spend most of your time working on...
- Your kids
- Your spouse
- Your job
- Your hobbies
- Your other pursuits
- Your friends
You see, all of these other things would fall into place very nicely if you would only work on yourself.
- Temptations will decreased.
- Anxieties will decreased.
- People will enjoy your presence much more.
- Walking upstairs won't be a problem.
- Health problems will be reduced.
- Quality of life goes up.
There's a saying that goes like this: "In order for things to change, you have to change." While it sounds cliche, there is power in that statement. Nothing around you will get better unless YOU get better. Of all the things to work on, let YOURSELF be the number one project!
Focus on YOU. Put most of your focus on YOU. Once you do that, everything else will follow closely behind.