In my PE classes, I sometimes have my kids play soccer. One thing I would notice about the two teams is that one is always more aggressive than the other. Sometimes, one team is so passive that they are practically letting the other team win.
With one group, I had to tell them that they were not being aggressive enough. They weren't trying as hard as they think! It was as if they weren't trying to win; instead, they were letting the other team win!
Then once the passive team knew that they needed to fight a little more, the game started to become tougher!
In life, we either live by making things happen or letting things happen. I'd dare say that most of us live a life where we let things happen.
How many of you usually feel that:
- It's out of your hands?
- Someone else got lucky?
- You weren't born privileged?
- You have no advantages?
- You're not smart enough?
- You're too poor?
If you say yes to more than ONE of these, then you might be living a life where you just let things happen to you. Instead of aggressively making changes in your life, you would just accept that you could only do so little.
Remember that you could do MUCH MORE than you think. You don't have to let life happen to you. If there is something you truly want to conquer, then you need to make up your mind to do it.
Yes, I know, I make it sound so easy. But remember that you only have two options in life: you either make it happen or you will let it happen. I don't know about you, but I get weary of letting things happen to me when I could be the one to make things happen.
- Design your life, or someone else will design it for you.
- Choose your destiny in life, or someone else will choose it for you.
- Go after your aspirations, or someone else will go after them.
- Fight back or get eaten.
- Run away or get caught.
- Build your dreams, or you will help someone build their dreams.
If you're tired of being stuck where you are in life and you want to move forward, stop letting stuff happen to you.
Going back to the soccer game example, when the kids were being too passive, they were letting the other team win. They were barely fighting! But when they saw that they could do better, they were starting to score points. Instead of accepting a losing game, they wanted to fight hard to win it.
Same thing in life. Don't sit back and let things happen to you. Don't lose the game because you just don't want to try. Be proactive in getting what you want. Life won't simply hand you a trophy. You need to go out there and get it!
So don't accept defeat. Don't play victim. Don't feel sorry for yourself. Empower yourself to do more so you could finally move forward in life.