The more I thought about these folks, the more I realize that food and laziness aren't their problem. And no, it's not a thyroid issue (I've had a client who had NO thyroid, and she still managed to lose weight). The root cause of their problem is that they take comfort in the wrong things -- and in this case, their comfort is in food. This means that if they are feeling depressed, angry, or fearful, they would turn to food as their means of comfort.
Many of you could relate. Food is your source of comfort. Whether you're angry, happy, bored, miserable, or anxious, food is like your marijuana: you turn to it to get high. It's your means of escape.
And you know what happens when you continue to use food as your comfort? You eventually will die.
We all have taken comfort in the wrong things...
- For some, it's drugs.
- For some, it's porn.
- For some, it's alcohol.
- For some, it's video games.
- For some, it's food.
- For some, it's television.
The wrong comfort tools could never completely satisfy us, and they always end up hurting us one way or another. There is nothing wrong in seeking comfort. We all need something to go to for escape. But we need to be careful about whom or what we're running to for comfort. Your source of comfort will either build you up or make you into a junkie.
When your activity for comfort simply numbs your pain, then you're a junkie. Your comfort source does nothing else for you than to desensitize you for a few moments. But once you come back to reality and start feeling pain again, you'll go right back to the drug that kills the pain. This source of comfort is no good for you. This kind of comfort will eventually ruin your life.
However, when your activity for comfort is actually productive, then you're building yourself up. It's like going for a run whenever you're feeling stressed. The running is keeping your body in shape. It's an activity that will stabilize your mood for a long period of time so that you won't feel the need to run every 30 minutes! With numbing activities, your mood would be stabilized for a few minutes and then you'll need to go back to that numbing activity again for another "fix."
Think about writing in a journal whenever you're angry. For one, writing is soothing to the soul! That is, if you're a writer. Two, writing could help you solve some of your problems. Writing is productive. It builds you up. But say that your source of comfort is playing video games. What are games doing for you? Nothing. You would only feel peace whenever you're playing a game, but once you turn off that Xbox, you're back to feeling doom and gloom again.
Your source of comfort will either sustain your moods for a long period, or they will sustain your moods only as long as you're participating in that comfort activity.
You want your source of comfort to be stable. You want it to make you into a better person. You want it to help you get through the day. If your source of comfort cannot accomplish any of these, then it's the wrong source of comfort.
Let's go back to the overweight person example. That person would always go to food for comfort, and food only provides temporary highs. Once that food hits your belly, you're good for, maybe, another hour or so. Then you're back in the fridge, or tearing through the cabinets looking for something sweet, or searching for loose change for the vending machine.
Before you know it, you'll be broke, very obese, sick, and you'll be in and out of the hospital.
But here's the thing about bad comfort sources: you know that they are bad for you. No overweight person (with good sense) will tell you that eating food all day is good for you. But it's the only source of comfort that works for you. It's the only source that you know. Whenever you were in trouble, that comfort source was always there for you. What in the world could you replace that very reliable comfort source with??
So, now is the time to start looking around for better comfort sources. It's time to...
- Put the food away.
- Put that cigarette down.
- Click off those naughty websites.
- Throw the liquor bottles away.
- Turn the Nintendo off.
- Sign off Facebook.
- Stop inviting a different man in your house every night.
- Stop visiting different women houses every night.
It's time to start looking for comfort sources that are productive. It's time to stop masking your symptoms with drugs and start getting to the root of the symptoms. Life won't be the way it ought to be as long as your comfort sources are making you into a junkie.